What should you do when a peer displays ambivalence?

When a peer displays ambivalence, rolling with ambivalence is considered the most appropriate response because it acknowledges the peer's mixed feelings without forcing them to choose a side immediately. This approach fosters an environment of trust and support, allowing the individual to explore their thoughts and feelings at their own pace. By doing so, the peer is empowered to reflect on their circumstances and consider their options, which can lead to more meaningful decisions.

In contrast, pushing someone to make a decision may increase their resistance or anxiety, making them less likely to engage in the process or explore their feelings deeply. Ignoring their feelings of ambivalence dismisses a significant aspect of their experience, potentially alienating them and reducing the effectiveness of the support they receive. Offering immediate advice without regard for their feelings can also undermine their autonomy and sense of agency, as it shifts the focus away from their needs and uncertainties, which are crucial elements to address when someone is experiencing ambivalence. Thus, rolling with ambivalence supports the individual’s journey and respects their personal process.